Wednesday, February 28, 2007


We got it! We got it! We got it! We have been anxiously waiting to hear those two little letters, and Tuesday we finally got a call that said "GO!" So we are leaving to pick up our baby!!!!

We will be leaving in about 4 weeks and have been searching the internet for flights, hotels, information on Kyrgyzstan, and reading all we can find from other families who have made the trek. The crazy part is that we totally missed the call in the first place because the message was left on our home answering machine, which Jerret didn't check after work, and I didn't even make it home until nearly 9:00 that night. I simply assumed he had listened to whatever messages we had and I never bothered to listen to them myself. The next day I happened to be checking the webboard that is hosted by our agency and I noticed one of the other families had a posting regarding their travel dates. Knowing that we had a court date on the same day as this family, I followed my hunch and contacted our agency who said they did have travel dates for us as well, and they were trying to contact us via our home phone. (They wouldn't know that this is a bad idea, but anyone who knows us KNOWS we are really bad about picking up the home phone). I know they have my cell number, as they have called me on it many times, but nevertheless we got the message and are ready to leave!!!

We do know that we are also traveling with two other families from our agency who are also adopting infants. It is comforting for us all to know that we will be going through this process with others who can understand the craziness of it all and empathize with our situations. We are all planning on staying at the same hotel and will be getting our babies from the same orphanage. I can't wait to post his picture for all of you to see!

Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Oh Yeah...Had A Court Date!

Quick Update - We had our court date last week and everything went well! We are now officially in our 30-day waiting period (waiting for the adoption decree to go into effect). Once the 30 days are over, our baby will need a passport and some other paperwork completed, but he will forever be ours and we will be going to pick him up. We're more than excited.

Besides that, we've been busy finishing the nursery. It looks great, and the Ohio State theme that Jerret so desperately wanted actually came out looking much better than I expected.

Thursday, February 08, 2007

Oprah - (Man She's Smart!)

I was watching Oprah the other day and she had on a couple that has been dealing with some pretty serious infertility issues. They were younger and have been trying to have kids for years with no luck. They cried together and both talked about the disappointment they were dealing with and how they wanted a baby more than anything in the world. Unfortunately, Jerret and I know these issues all too well. The wife was so upset and kept crying and saying how she felt as though she was letting everyone down. She felt as though it was her fault she wasn’t able to conceive and she couldn’t handle the fact that she was not living the life that she had planned for herself, and more importantly (to her), not at a place in her life that others thought she should be (you know the stereotype – wonderful husband, 2.7 kids, SUV, white picket fence and a dog named Rover).

Oprah tried to ask why she felt this way. Why did she need to live in the “idea” of a perfect family? Why could she not take the cards that God has given her and let her own life play out? Why live in someone else’s dream? She told the couple to “Let it Go.” The wife cried and cried and said she couldn’t and didn’t know how, and Oprah continued with her advice saying that the life this couple was supposed to be living was passing them by because they could not let go of their unsuccessful attempts at getting pregnant. She told them to “Let Go and Let God.”

I thought about Oprah’s advice and tried to understand what exactly she was saying. She was telling this couple that if they could not get over this one setback in life and take what God was giving them (or not giving them), they would forever be stuck – mourning the baby they would never have. The world would pass them by and they would never know what had been there waiting for them all along because they were too wrapped-up in their own sorrows. Perhaps the couple were meant to be missionaries, traveling throughout the world doing “God’s work”, and the reason they were not given children of their own was because they couldn’t be tied down to one place when they needed to be out and traveling all the time. Maybe both husband and wife carry some rare genetic disorder that would result in the untimely deaths of the mother, child, or both. Or perhaps the couple could not conceive on their own because they were meant to take one of the many children in this world who have no one to care for them.

In retrospect, I am not sure how Jerret and I finally decided to move past the lives we were living into the life we were meant to live. We too were living in the infertility fog. For over three years we injected hormones, sat through ultrasounds, bought ovulation predictor kits, took at-home pregnancy tests, and lived with the disappointment that seemed to follow month after month. It was not until our second ectopic pregnancy that I realized we couldn’t live the way we had been for so long. It was time for a change. This was our time when we needed to Let Go and Let God. So we did.

Offering up our lives and letting go of the control is not an easy thing to do. We had to put aside all of our preconceived notions about what our life was supposed to be and deal with what our life was. We knew that God had a different plan for us; the challenge was in accepting the plan. Whatever he had in store for us was going to be big, we were sure. And it was (is).